Spoke to mum today, she finally managed to pay in the cheques and cash (now a big cq) to the hospital after been brought to tears by the hospital office workers.
They were most rude and tried to make mum pay it into humberside hospitals, she said no dads wish and mine was east riding (alfred bean) hospital, our local hospital.
It took 2 quiet prominent spokes persons from the town who bumped into mum whilst she was still upset and they asked "whats wrong Greta?".
They went up to the hospital to shake things up for her.
The whole episode has left a bad taste in my mouth and they were lucky i was abroad while this abuse took place.
Any way she has a reciept for the money i will copy and paste soon to say it is going to stay local and assureing her she will be told what has happeed to the funds.
no photo yet as this is all still fluid.
Just keeping you all posted as only just returning am finding this out now.
kind regards john.