Pure Cremations.
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HonestJohn
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Wait till you’re dead, it’s not that bad, despite Brexit
My understanding is that it's one of a few companies that'll come along and take away your deceased relative and have him/her cremated then bring back to you the ashes.
The advantages are that it's simple and cost effective, so there's no service to pay for, no funeral cars, no flowers, no coffin, etc etc.
I know of one person that did things that way. The advantages are clear. Less financial stress and less organising and the stress that can bring. Of course it takes away the chance for the wider family, friends, workmates and so on to mark the passing and pay respects. Although you could always have some sort of a wake or whatever gathering afterwards to celebrate their life I guess.
I think it's certainly an option for people that aren't religious and perhaps for those who are so old that their peers have already gone on before. Although I do wonder if those left behind might feel a bit left out.
The advantages are that it's simple and cost effective, so there's no service to pay for, no funeral cars, no flowers, no coffin, etc etc.
I know of one person that did things that way. The advantages are clear. Less financial stress and less organising and the stress that can bring. Of course it takes away the chance for the wider family, friends, workmates and so on to mark the passing and pay respects. Although you could always have some sort of a wake or whatever gathering afterwards to celebrate their life I guess.
I think it's certainly an option for people that aren't religious and perhaps for those who are so old that their peers have already gone on before. Although I do wonder if those left behind might feel a bit left out.
HonestJohn
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Recently buried my Father, we had a relatively simple and cheap service with cremation. It was still a £10k bill to float for my mother. Not fun, and the financial distress really taints matters further, so I recommend forward planning to save the stress on any loved ones who will have to deal with it for sure. Then followed by my sister 3 months later! 
Jon P
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The two things that are guaranteed in life- taxes and death- definitely helps to get it all sorted out before the big day.
when my mother was diagnosed with cancer we went grave shopping, she wanted to be close to entrance of the cemetery so people who travel by bus could still visit and had to be close to the tap for flowers- the poor man working at the cemetery almost fell over when he was doing his speech about sorry for your lose and who was it for - mum putting him straight that it was for herself- probably in about 6 months- anyway she got the spot she wanted. -
she picked her coffin prior too, and all paid for service with undertakers - so definitely made things easier for us, and TBH when the time came it was time for her with the pain she was in.
Non religious humanist funeral- on a side note- if anyone is thinking of buying a grave plot- put it in a few people’s names so they can agree to you being buried in there, other wise if in the dead persons name only it may have to go through probate first.
when my mother was diagnosed with cancer we went grave shopping, she wanted to be close to entrance of the cemetery so people who travel by bus could still visit and had to be close to the tap for flowers- the poor man working at the cemetery almost fell over when he was doing his speech about sorry for your lose and who was it for - mum putting him straight that it was for herself- probably in about 6 months- anyway she got the spot she wanted. -
she picked her coffin prior too, and all paid for service with undertakers - so definitely made things easier for us, and TBH when the time came it was time for her with the pain she was in.
Non religious humanist funeral- on a side note- if anyone is thinking of buying a grave plot- put it in a few people’s names so they can agree to you being buried in there, other wise if in the dead persons name only it may have to go through probate first.
shakey jake
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girl friends granny was done this way, i burried the ashes on top of her gran dad. saved a load of money for her mum. they still had the religous nonsense so had to give the church something.
certainly makes sense to me to not waste money on middle men
certainly makes sense to me to not waste money on middle men
GrumpyGrandpa
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Yes, I've told (asked) SWMBO for a direct (rapid) cremation. First time I mentioned it she agreed just a little too quickly and with a hint of a wicked smile so I quickly added, "after death, obviously".
Then I started researching the costs and have somehow found myself occasionally shopping around for a better deal
(I know, typical Scot).
The boss was looking over my shoulder one day, saw what I was looking at, and asked why I was planning so far in advance. When I mentioned the cost and that I might find a less expensive company/service, she just smiled, started to walk away and said, "good, all the more left over for the party".
Definitely agree with discussing your plans with the rest of your family so they know what you want. I'm the youngest of five and when we get together the subject of funerals and what we want to happen usually comes up at some point. That conversation usually ends up with us all in hysterics. I think my second-eldest sister has bagged the cheapest by donating her body to science.
Then I started researching the costs and have somehow found myself occasionally shopping around for a better deal
(I know, typical Scot).The boss was looking over my shoulder one day, saw what I was looking at, and asked why I was planning so far in advance. When I mentioned the cost and that I might find a less expensive company/service, she just smiled, started to walk away and said, "good, all the more left over for the party".
Definitely agree with discussing your plans with the rest of your family so they know what you want. I'm the youngest of five and when we get together the subject of funerals and what we want to happen usually comes up at some point. That conversation usually ends up with us all in hysterics. I think my second-eldest sister has bagged the cheapest by donating her body to science.
my father is 77 and he has always said he wants to be a “donated to science” when he dies, but he hasn’t actually organised anything.…how do I go about getting him booked in?
I sat with my Dad at the funeral Directors when my Mum died. I saw him cry for the first time - it was the stupid little details (what colour shroud?, what type of handles?) that tipped him over. When we left I asked for a spare questionaire they went through and filled it in for me. It's in my paperwork file and my wife knows too - save her the grief of doing it when I peg out.
My father was cremated this way last week. He was a major in the Royal Artillery and wanted no fuss or unnecessary expense, so we saved about £6k - we will have a memorial service in April when people can get to Cornwall in the spring.
Similar to what happened to my Father in Law when he passed. Body went from care home where he died to undertakers, and they returned his ashes to my Mother on law. Not service, no nothing.
Not sure about it all, many people asked for funeral details to see him off and were equally surprised/ shocked/ disappointed when they were told there would be no service.
My wife kept quiet but I could tell it was only to prevent a family rift at an already upsetting time.
Not sure about it all, many people asked for funeral details to see him off and were equally surprised/ shocked/ disappointed when they were told there would be no service.
My wife kept quiet but I could tell it was only to prevent a family rift at an already upsetting time.
I think it's a good option for anyone who wants a no fuss low cost funeral
AFAIK, the time and date of the cremation is known, but no-one is present, (it's probably done far away from where the deceased lived) and if any sort of wake or memorial service is desired, then that can go ahead at a time and place of the family's choosing
Cheers
Bruce
Seemingly not so good way to go if you live/die in Hull. Shameful.
FrenchieBoy
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My wife and I have both agreed that we will have a simple cremation which can be followed at a later date by a gathering of friend for a memorial service to celebrate our lives.
HonestJohn
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One thing to consider with low cost cremations these days, they might just ship you to China and what comes back are ashes from a street dog. 
Is there any evidence to show that the company in question had anything to do with Pure Cremations ?
Cheers
Bruce
GrumpyGrandpa
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(My sister lives in Scotland but I think the process is the same here.)
Contact 'local' medical schools (is Truro close to you / your father?) and ask if they need cadavers. If so they should guide you through the process / send the relevant forms.
Rake Aboot
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I literally want nothing
Wrapped in a blanket and have a farmer dig a hole with a back hoe
Chuck me in and fill it in. Job done.
Have left instruction , no markers no nothing.
Wrapped in a blanket and have a farmer dig a hole with a back hoe
Chuck me in and fill it in. Job done.
Have left instruction , no markers no nothing.
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