Pure Cremations.
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I'm not a big fan of crematorium chapels. I've both attended, and had to arrange, funerals of a religious type where the committal (i.e. the last bit of religious ritual before burial/cremation) happens at the church door on the way out - and the body is then taken away for cremation, unattended by mourners.
This seems to me to have numerous advantages, only one of which is financial.
This seems to me to have numerous advantages, only one of which is financial.
HonestJohn
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At least have your favourite rifle and some ammo to go with it, just in case by some stroke of a miracle Russians made it to the afterlife,,,or there’s deer stalking available!
timbrayford
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Direct cremations are excellent vfm, no one has to travel to a funeral, no clerics, freemasons etc. chanting mumbo jumbo and you can still have a wake if you like.
No ceremony, turn me to ashes ,take me to a pub leave me on a table with a pic of me, so people can remember me a grieve, or laugh whilst drinking plenty of beers that ive already paid for, then sprinkle my ashes at my favourite stalking ground under a really old oak tree with the ashes from all my past dogs that ive collected, That will do me
We were all for all for leaving our bodies for medical science. However the small print said that they could decline to accept for whatever reason after death, which could generate all sorts of grief for the survivors. We are therefore planning to go the "pure" type route. My ideal would be like the Hamza - chap is gone, have a drink and possibly a smoke, move on...... but the world we live in does not facilitate this simple and natural approach to death.
enfieldspares
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I fear that you now have to pay a bond to the hospital, or whatever, to cover "disposal" costs so no longer a cost free option?
I suppose I could collect what’s left of him from the hospital and leave it out for the bin men in black bags?
When the curtains get drawn, and the favourite music is played. Has anybody (see what I did there) ever complained that it didn't go to plan. Regarding the ashes. Del Boy had them in the hoover.
MiL has just been returned to us by Pure Cremation. She had a prepaid plan & when the time came the process was smooth & totally respectful. She was collected from the carehome after a courtesy call from them to confirm when they would attend. Slight issue with transport so they arranged collection by a funeral director on their behalf with no drama & all totally transparent in what they were doing. Communication was good & we were kept informed of process & when ashes would be returned. On the morning they were returned they made a courtesy call to confirm the 'delivery slot' & they arrived just as advised. MiL didn't want any fuss or the financial burden & wanted the other half to decide where to scatter the ashes so she could always visit when she wanted. FiL has also got a prepaid plan with them.
Based on this experience I'd have no qualms in using them.
On a side note, no idea what my old man wants, he's never said. BUT, he has got all his affairs in order & all with his solicitor, has given us each a business card with account number etc on it so when the time comes we just contact them & am pretty confident he's got everything planned.
Now my Mum on the other hand
Based on this experience I'd have no qualms in using them.
On a side note, no idea what my old man wants, he's never said. BUT, he has got all his affairs in order & all with his solicitor, has given us each a business card with account number etc on it so when the time comes we just contact them & am pretty confident he's got everything planned.
Now my Mum on the other hand
timbrayford
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Unfortunately my father didn't put his affairs in order before he succumbed to dementia at the age of 93. I'd already arranged a no frills cremation with the co-op. Amazingly when he died a close female friend of his appeared at the care home and purported to be his wife and her grown up son his stepson! They then attempted to hijack the funeral arrangements. As next of kin I jumped on that one sharpish. I'm not sure what sort of scam they were up to even now!MiL has just been returned to us by Pure Cremation. She had a prepaid plan & when the time came the process was smooth & totally respectful. She was collected from the carehome after a courtesy call from them to confirm when they would attend. Slight issue with transport so they arranged collection by a funeral director on their behalf with no drama & all totally transparent in what they were doing. Communication was good & we were kept informed of process & when ashes would be returned. On the morning they were returned they made a courtesy call to confirm the 'delivery slot' & they arrived just as advised. MiL didn't want any fuss or the financial burden & wanted the other half to decide where to scatter the ashes so she could always visit when she wanted. FiL has also got a prepaid plan with them.
Based on this experience I'd have no qualms in using them.
On a side note, no idea what my old man wants, he's never said. BUT, he has got all his affairs in order & all with his solicitor, has given us each a business card with account number etc on it so when the time comes we just contact them & am pretty confident he's got everything planned.
Now my Mum on the other hand
I've decided ...... You MUST make your plans known! My beloved next of kin know exactly my wishes, No expense. No funeral cars /entourage, flowers etc blah blah blah.
A simple cremation or burial (whichever the cheapest) Ashes spread somewhere dear to their hearts where theirs will eventually be!
A simple cremation or burial (whichever the cheapest) Ashes spread somewhere dear to their hearts where theirs will eventually be!
I find it curious that some people are so concerned with not having a funeral, memorial service or whatever. It is no longer about you: you are dead. It is an opportunity for others to pay their respects to your family. To show them you meant something to them.
I suppose if you feel you are worthless they you would be content with nothing. Your friends and family may feel otherwise.
I suppose if you feel you are worthless they you would be content with nothing. Your friends and family may feel otherwise.
Nope. It's nowt to do with feeling of worthlessnes at all .
I actually feel it's about releasing friends & family. Letting them know of MY wishes (my last!) Not theirs.
basil
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For your info.
It is about me and what I wish.
I have a family but it is a family that I want no part of.
My father is still alive but my mum passed two years ago and there isn't a day that goes past where I wish my parents could swap places.
Why you think that someone is worthless because they want something different astounds me.
By the way, if you want your ashes spread in a memorable place, just go and do it, don't ask permission. A good friend wrote to Severn Trent as his father was a keen fisherman and always fished the same spot. He did what he thought was the right thing and wrote to them just to check it was OK. He received a letter back with red writing on the top, and although nicely written, referred to ashes as "biological hazard"! They've got a cheek - ashes are sterile and ST have no issue pumping in raw sh*t all the time. BTW, - he gave the appropriate two fingers to that, and his dad ended up in the Trent as planned.
Very generous offer....If you have a local Medical School, you can notify them of your intentions and they should be able to supply you with a consent form for when the day comes. If not, have a cha with his local GP and see if they have an agreement with a University/Medical School. It is also handy to notify your Fathers GP of his intentions. When the day finally comes, you will need to notify the Hospital (if he is in one) or Funeral Directors that your Dad's wishes are for his body to be collected by the Medical School.
Believe it or not, there are times when there are too many bodies and there might be a polite "no thank you", but it is always nice to have someone who has thought of future Doctors.
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