I had a very nice day yesterday with my son.

Hello all, my son is 14 at the moment. since lock down he has not been quite right, he is always really tired and has a complete lack of energy. it’s impossible to wake him up for anything, school, holidays, shooting, beating, you name it and here misses out on all the things he loves to do. He was finally diagnosed last June with Myalgic encephalomyelitis (M.E) and Chronic fatigue syndrome (C.F.S). It’s been really hard on him, just for him to get his head round it and understand it. Some times he’s up all night because he cant fall asleep, he goes a bit nocturnal. The 10 year old cocker spaniel can sense there is something wrong as he is obsessed with guarding him when he does final fall asleep.
Saturday night I get the kit ready as I was going to go out and have a stalk early Sunday morning for a roe buck or a muntjac. The freezer was empty and Finley loves venison burgers and steak. I never set an alarm to wake up, the dog woke me at 430am because Finley had managed to shut him out of his bedroom. I poke my head into the boys room, “alright mate, you been up all night?” Yeah, can you get me a cup of tea.
Ok, I’m going stalking do you want to come?. No I don’t feel like it.
I get to my ground about 5am ( only 1.5 miles drive) I stalk up through the woods but the vegetation has shot up making seeing and shooting really hard. I climb up into a high seat.
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let think’s settle for a bit, then I spot a single roe cross the ride at the far end. To quick to get a good look at it, to even sex it. 15 minutes later a roe buck appears from the left hand side and feeds down towards me. Rifle comes up, buck is very kind and present a perfect broadside shot.
Bang,flop. Unload, climb down, gralloch, back to the home for tea and medals.
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I get him hanging in the fridge in the man cave, then go and find Finley and give him the good news. “Let’s have a look then” he then gives me his seal of approval as we have more venison again.

I then ask him if he fancies doing some clay shooting today and bribe him with the idea of a lovely bacon roll. He surprises me with a yes can do.
We both get ready and sneak out of the house before we wake up the mrs/mum. We pick up a friend on route and head to a clay ground none of us had been to before. Partake in a cup of tea and said bacon roll. The three of us then walk round and shoot a nice round of sporting clays. Finley shoot a brilliant 19/50, I was really proud of him, especially since I could see he was tidy but he battled on to do something he enjoyed and had fun and a good giggle.
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Sounds like a cracking day - sounds like some great father/son time.
My eldest (7) has come and worked the buttons and done the scoring, and loves a bit of beating, but hasn’t yet shot. Must sort a junior air rifle and do some plinking and see how he take to it.
 
Sounds like a good day! And a cracker of a buck to boot!

Wish the lad the best for getting on top of the issues, can be easy and could easily be diagnosed as “a lazy teen”….well done to you for looking into it and not dismissing it! 👍🏻

Regards,
Gixer
 
Suffered with ME/CFS for over 10 yrs now. It will improve, that is the one thing to drill in to him. Time, time and more time but I feel for him suffering at that age.

I cannot stress how important it is for him to listen to his body. I imagine that is hard for him at school. What happens with PE and sport and stuff like that at school? I mean brain fog and all that sort of thing makes mental concentration hard enough with lessons but the physical side of energy output is what can make you relapse so quick and have hard energy crashes. I hope school are being supportive with that and not making him do more than he can cope with. At the same time, fresh air is important and still maintaining some sort of physical output even in tiny quantities.

I tried all sorts from homeopathic stuff to some proper left field ideas. Don't write anything off. I found being in the sun (get his Vit D levels checked) was good despite never liking the hot weather before. Also CBD helped immensely, especially with sleep. Natures way of recovering. Anything that can assist with rest is good. Also salts, fluids and keeping electrolytes at good levels. Diet is also huge as is a positive outlook. Try to make him feel lucky which he clearly is with a dad who encourages him to get out and about.

Wish him the best of luck from me and and also good luck to you. It will be taxing having to deal with absolute lethargy which is impossible to imagine until you feel it personally. I was shocked how I went from being perfectly healthy and strong to so weak and tired. I went from being very energetic, cycling, playing squash and golf daily to struggling to climb stairs and doing basic chores at home. Gave it all up for 5yrs and took up metal detecting, leatherwork and little bits of hunting here and there when I felt strong enough. Roll on 10yrs and I am now 43 and back to playing golf daily and cycling. I don't play squash anymore though. I think that would do me in but there is light at the end of the tunnel.

All the best.
 
Sounds like a great day. Our twins were badly affected by lockdown & covid so you have my sympathies at what is at best a difficult time for them even without the added complication of an illness.
 
Suffered with ME/CFS for over 10 yrs now. It will improve, that is the one thing to drill in to him. Time, time and more time but I feel for him suffering at that age.

I cannot stress how important it is for him to listen to his body. I imagine that is hard for him at school. What happens with PE and sport and stuff like that at school? I mean brain fog and all that sort of thing makes mental concentration hard enough with lessons but the physical side of energy output is what can make you relapse so quick and have hard energy crashes. I hope school are being supportive with that and not making him do more than he can cope with. At the same time, fresh air is important and still maintaining some sort of physical output even in tiny quantities.

I tried all sorts from homeopathic stuff to some proper left field ideas. Don't write anything off. I found being in the sun (get his Vit D levels checked) was good despite never liking the hot weather before. Also CBD helped immensely, especially with sleep. Natures way of recovering. Anything that can assist with rest is good. Also salts, fluids and keeping electrolytes at good levels. Diet is also huge as is a positive outlook. Try to make him feel lucky which he clearly is with a dad who encourages him to get out and about.

Wish him the best of luck from me and and also good luck to you. It will be taxing having to deal with absolute lethargy which is impossible to imagine until you feel it personally. I was shocked how I went from being perfectly healthy and strong to so weak and tired. I went from being very energetic, cycling, playing squash and golf daily to struggling to climb stairs and doing basic chores at home. Gave it all up for 5yrs and took up metal detecting, leatherwork and little bits of hunting here and there when I felt strong enough. Roll on 10yrs and I am now 43 and back to playing golf daily and cycling. I don't play squash anymore though. I think that would do me in but there is light at the end of the tunnel.

All the best.

Thanks for all your message of support, it means a lot to both of us. School is a bit of a right off for the lad at the moment, which is a shame as he loves school and learning. It’s certainly a testing time for the whole family. We take one day at a time, some are good some not so good. But we try to keep smiling and carry on and pick the battles we want to win and don’t stress about the rest
 
Hello all, my son is 14 at the moment. since lock down he has not been quite right, he is always really tired and has a complete lack of energy. it’s impossible to wake him up for anything, school, holidays, shooting, beating, you name it and here misses out on all the things he loves to do. He was finally diagnosed last June with Myalgic encephalomyelitis (M.E) and Chronic fatigue syndrome (C.F.S). It’s been really hard on him, just for him to get his head round it and understand it. Some times he’s up all night because he cant fall asleep, he goes a bit nocturnal. The 10 year old cocker spaniel can sense there is something wrong as he is obsessed with guarding him when he does final fall asleep.
Saturday night I get the kit ready as I was going to go out and have a stalk early Sunday morning for a roe buck or a muntjac. The freezer was empty and Finley loves venison burgers and steak. I never set an alarm to wake up, the dog woke me at 430am because Finley had managed to shut him out of his bedroom. I poke my head into the boys room, “alright mate, you been up all night?” Yeah, can you get me a cup of tea.
Ok, I’m going stalking do you want to come?. No I don’t feel like it.
I get to my ground about 5am ( only 1.5 miles drive) I stalk up through the woods but the vegetation has shot up making seeing and shooting really hard. I climb up into a high seat.
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let think’s settle for a bit, then I spot a single roe cross the ride at the far end. To quick to get a good look at it, to even sex it. 15 minutes later a roe buck appears from the left hand side and feeds down towards me. Rifle comes up, buck is very kind and present a perfect broadside shot.
Bang,flop. Unload, climb down, gralloch, back to the home for tea and medals.
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I get him hanging in the fridge in the man cave, then go and find Finley and give him the good news. “Let’s have a look then” he then gives me his seal of approval as we have more venison again.

I then ask him if he fancies doing some clay shooting today and bribe him with the idea of a lovely bacon roll. He surprises me with a yes can do.
We both get ready and sneak out of the house before we wake up the mrs/mum. We pick up a friend on route and head to a clay ground none of us had been to before. Partake in a cup of tea and said bacon roll. The three of us then walk round and shoot a nice round of sporting clays. Finley shoot a brilliant 19/50, I was really proud of him, especially since I could see he was tidy but he battled on to do something he enjoyed and had fun and a good giggle.
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Good chap 👍🍺
 
Good luck.
It's as important to look after yourself and your wife mental health too to keep the family mechanics running smoothly.

The advice I was ever given to manage a teenager going is give them a choice.
Get Finely to make a little father/son bucket list of things he wants to do this coming season.
This gives you clues of what he would like to do to and creates some PMA for the week ahead.
Are we going clay pigeons or try real pigeons next weekend.
It's either A or B rather than giving him a choice.
If he is too tired, drained or unwell on the planned day, you still go anyway. This gives you some escapism time yourself as its booked in the diary.
The fear of teenager missing out on a new exciting experience brings PMA and sometimes diminishes the tiredness with increased adrenaline levels.
Offer the biggest carrot dangler possible for a budding teenage hunter.
As Finely is 14 he can apply for a FAC / Shotgun licence. You must stipulate to him though that he has to do a lot of practicing first before the paperwork is inserted.
Watching a 20p lemonade bottle explode and then they say #Cool# afterwards unknowingly warms the heart, it creates fun memories.
It may strenghten father/son activities bond for future decades when we get older.
It tough enough in life for a teenager going the hormonal changes and tougher times still with his illness.
Unknowing priceless to helping his mental health.
 
Looks like you both had a cracking day. Family time is so important, you can never get the time back. Also a cracking looking buck that.

All the best to your son for the future, fingers crossed all will improve.
 
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