Re-evaluation of personal values and priorities.

[tozzybum]

Thought provoking post Tim ,like many thousands of others my factory life has ground to a halt.
Priorities are family and family, mum 79 and a prisoner in sheltered housing, family in Derby key workers ,power lines and communications.
Makes you realize how stuck in the rat race we've become, many conversations about what to do after this to follow. Stay safe and good luck with your life style changes

 

[VSS]

Thought provoking post Tim ,like many thousands of others my factory life has ground to a halt.
Priorities are family and family, mum 79 and a prisoner in sheltered housing, family in Derby key workers ,power lines and communications.
Makes you realize how stuck in the rat race we've become, many conversations about what to do after this to follow. Stay safe and good luck with your life style changes

Maybe time for you to make some changes too, Iain? I think that your good lady has a hankering for a little farm somewhere.
As for me, I won't be changing my lifestyle as such, just shedding a few of the unnecessary aspects and concentrating on the things I've always valued most highly.

 

[bowji john]

The lads that come to my place are all excluded from school

As a result of all this trouble, the work has now been cancelled

Yesterday i received an email from the teacher of one of those lads

Apparently he is not coping well with confinement and I've been asked to email him (via the teacher) as they believe that he will listen to me and it will help him handle the current challenges

I've never been so honoured and never felt so valued

 

[tozzybum]

Yes she's always dreamed of a small holding somewhere remote ,with a few chickens and beasts to keep us in meat and sane too.
Definitely something to think about as the world stopped and showed how shallow the modern life really is

 

[Norfolk Horn]

I got rid of my business and left the rat race years ago.
After which I semi-retired and turned one of my favourite pastimes 'beekeeping' into a lifestyle business.

During which time I've been subjected to as much as the next person, cancer (Both myself and relatives), loss of close relatives, all the usual 21st-century challenges.


But I maintain that I have been, and continue to be, very fortunate.
I put this down to one thing and one thing only!

Understanding that 'everything' I cannot control is not important.
Of the things I can control, most are not important.


Leaving only a handful of things in life, that truly matter.
All else......cut it loose, enjoy each day.

Bee keepers unit
I've only been keeping bees two full seasons and it is totally addictive plus I keep my bruv in honey so have some leverage for his home loads.
I totally agree just use your time and effort on things that you can make a difference

 

[Lateral]

I know money isn't the most important thing in life, but a time like this, I'm sad for the people/families who are not working, who may, or may not get money from the government, who are racking up debt, and worried sick over it !

I know this is of secondary concern, to staying fit, and healthy, but at the same time, it's bound to cause a lot of people mental heath issues !

 

[Essex stalker]

People need to remember that money doesn't make you happy, it just makes being unhappy a little easier!!

 

[Stalker62]

I think there will be quite a few of us at the moment with time to ruminate and reflect on what is and what is not so important.
Once upon a time I worked in the public sector and did so for over thirty years. Never going to get rich working in the public sector - but provided you keep your nose clean - neither will you starve.

I retired just over three years ago and on the 3rd November at midnight (exactly) I went from being "important" to being invisible. Honestly, it took me the thick end of a year for me to get my head around it. Gone from daily making important decisions and leading hundreds of officers to getting told off by my wife for not putting the right washing powder/capsule in the damn machine.

Fast forward another couple of years and I am Beating on two local shoots and have a part-time job as a Keeper on another. The current CV drama may well have a negative impact on these activities and I feel deeply for those who are the professionals in this arena. Have also thrown myself into the world of re-loading with varying degrees of success and disaster.

Ironically, the same CV drama has resulted in a request from the current Commissioner of the Met for recently retired officers to return to the fold. My wife is a nurse and I have felt that she was doing the 'heavy lifting' in regard to this household's response to the emergency.

Of course I shall answer the call. Perhaps then my wife will forgive my inability to operate any domestic appliance.

Who said, "When man makes a plan the Gods laugh"....

 

[User00025]

Good post Tim, stay with your dream.
After a while working for HM and other leaders, I got me a big money job for a few years, and did it to keep No1 and kids happy. I then went keepering on 20% of the pennies and a few years later No1 issued an ultimatum, she got the house and everything in it. I carried on keepering, the money became immaterial as I eventually bought another house and rented it out.
After thirty plus years as a Keeper,Stalker, Head keeper and No2 nipping off with mate (loadsamoney) I retire for the first time. Couldn't do it the way of life is in the blood, so although knackered I still look after quite a nice place and enjoy it.
I probably would have had loads in the bank had I stuck with No1, but I wouldn't swap what I've done for anything.
Live in our own small cottage(No3 and me) do our own thing and I am more at ease than ever. Many of my former mates and bosses have pegged it, and losing "The Colonel" (best ever boss) a few years back I eventually came to terms with my own mortality. I do however keep in touch with his lady and visit twice a year.
Long chat with No 3 today as living in isolation and if we survive this lot we have ideas. We are going to get out more and visit folk around this island including a reprobate or two off SD and really enjoy some us time before I expire.

 

[Heym SR20]

Yup doing lots of soul searching and re-evaluating things big time.

 

[Klenchblaize]

My feeling is there will be many who won't have the relative luxury of willingly reavulating/resetting their lives after this crisis, whatever values they currently hold.

K

 

[takbok]

Good post Tim, stay with your dream.
After a while working for HM and other leaders, I got me a big money job for a few years, and did it to keep No1 and kids happy. I then went keepering on 20% of the pennies and a few years later No1 issued an ultimatum, she got the house and everything in it. I carried on keepering, the money became immaterial as I eventually bought another house and rented it out.
After thirty plus years as a Keeper,Stalker, Head keeper and No2 nipping off with mate (loadsamoney) I retire for the first time. Couldn't do it the way of life is in the blood, so although knackered I still look after quite a nice place and enjoy it.
I probably would have had loads in the bank had I stuck with No1, but I wouldn't swap what I've done for anything.
Live in our own small cottage(No3 and me) do our own thing and I am more at ease than ever. Many of my former mates and bosses have pegged it, and losing "The Colonel" (best ever boss) a few years back I eventually came to terms with my own mortality. I do however keep in touch with his lady and visit twice a year.
Long chat with No 3 today as living in isolation and if we survive this lot we have ideas. We are going to get out more and visit folk around this island including a reprobate or two off SD and really enjoy some us time before I expire.

Lots of space in our house if you're ever around NE Scotland. Not sure if I'm a reprobate yet though...

 

[Hereford]

My feeling is there will be many who won't have the relative luxury of willingly reavulating/resetting their lives after this crisis, whatever values they currently hold.

K

Man, you’re like a parent who’s always right - let the kids dream a while, Boomer

 

[Freeforester]

My feeling is there will be many who won't have the relative luxury of willingly reavulating/resetting their lives after this crisis, whatever values they current hold.

K

Sadly true, slavery is being imposed, ditto inflation, like it or no. Next generation will be pushed to find the first rung of the property ladder, but let them dream, hopes and dreams are what keep many going.

 

[User00025]

Lots of space in our house if you're ever around NE Scotland. Not sure if I'm a reprobate yet though...

Thank you for that kind offer,I might even get even further up there to catch up with Sir Guy if the old devil is still with us.

 

[Frank Homes]

I think there will be quite a few of us at the moment with time to ruminate and reflect on what is and what is not so important.
Once upon a time I worked in the public sector and did so for over thirty years. Never going to get rich working in the public sector - but provided you keep your nose clean - neither will you starve.

I retired just over three years ago and on the 3rd November at midnight (exactly) I went from being "important" to being invisible. Honestly, it took me the thick end of a year for me to get my head around it. Gone from daily making important decisions and leading hundreds of officers to getting told off by my wife for not putting the right washing powder/capsule in the damn machine.

Fast forward another couple of years and I am Beating on two local shoots and have a part-time job as a Keeper on another. The current CV drama may well have a negative impact on these activities and I feel deeply for those who are the professionals in this arena. Have also thrown myself into the world of re-loading with varying degrees of success and disaster.

Ironically, the same CV drama has resulted in a request from the current Commissioner of the Met for recently retired officers to return to the fold. My wife is a nurse and I have felt that she was doing the 'heavy lifting' in regard to this household's response to the emergency.

Of course I shall answer the call. Perhaps then my wife will forgive my inability to operate any domestic appliance.

Who said, "When man makes a plan the Gods laugh"....

I think i know you, don't you beat at Hoddington? I'm curious about your capitalization of Beating and Keeper.....A kindred spirit on the 'bus.'

F

 

[hunter243]

Reading some of these posts reminds me of my thoughts and feelings a few years ago. I'd gone through two divorces and had got back on my feet and though not rich was reasonably comfortable. I was described by many as one of the fittest people they knew, then within a few months I developed osteoarthritis in my hips and had both totally replaced. Complications with the second one led to an extended period of rehab and inactivity which allowed a lot of time for reflection and made me realise for the first time in my life that I wasn't indestructible. When I recovered I decided to drastically cut my hours in my main job and took a significant wage cut but I get by, I owe no-one and now have much more quality time to do the things I enjoy and find important. I'm in the best relationship I've ever been in(she's a key worker in a currently high risk job), I've got three lovely grandchildren and to be honest life's pretty good. I'd be lying if I said the CV situation didn't bother me but I know that one way or another we'll get through it.
To anyone in doubt or feeling down, just hang on in there, it will get better

 

[Pedro]

Some interesting stories here. Thanks for sharing.

 

[User00033]

Top tip.

Now is not a good time to be making life altering decisions.

Why?

Because there is too much emotion, and not enough logic.

Heart vs head.

Be very careful.

 

[Stalker62]

I think i know you, don't you beat at Hoddington? I'm curious about your capitalization of Beating and Keeper.....A kindred spirit on the 'bus.'

F

I have always felt that "beater" and "keeper" deserve capitalisation...