ideally, i could do with someone making me a list of everything i need to do the job right, then i will just go and buy it

if you think ill need it, i will buy it
No, do your own research and make your own decisions.
Spoon feeding information to someone, where not only their own saftey, but also others in the vicinity and general public, is at risk, is not an advisable course of action.
Good quality manual here, free.
As per title, free copy here: Hornday 10th Edition.pdf Over 1,000 pages so I recommend a download instead of trying to view it online. Happy shooting.
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There was a memeber on here (now left I believe) who decided to start a thread about subsonic loads for their rifle.
Instead of doing research, and following book data, they decided that instead of acquiring the reccomended bullets and powder, whatever was on their shelf would suffice. Simply loading less powder must make the round go slower, so proceed until subsonic velocities achieved.... right?
Having annouced this on the forum, several members posted to discourage this endeavor. However, this was met with a 'I know what I am doing!!!' response.
They were later visited by their local constabulary, and required to demonstrate that they could safely reload. The member later gave up their FAC and stopped posting here after all their gear was flogged.
Good riddance!