Alan,
It's totally impractical to measure the fitted, tightened length of an installed bolt on a riffle, given both ends need to be accessible.
My limited experience is with building engines. Torque setting are often given 3 ways, with engine oil applied to threads (given weight) graphite grease, and figures to be used with a stretch gauge, where one is usable, typically connecting rod bolts.
The other critical input, is that of "experience", and "feel".
These days, I rarely assemble engines, and don't have to tighten bolts on my rifles very often either, mainly just the barrel screws on the Blaser R8, where accuracy appears to be pretty insensitive, based on torque.
Most of us do any of this so rarely, that "experience" doesn't come into it, so using a tool "consistently" should give repeatable results, which is what we look for.