Though I work in the industry I am not a riflesmith and cannot help with the technical issues of headspacing and proving of your Blaser R93. Maybe others on the forum have experience of Blaser issues.
If you have a headspace problem then that is a serious matter and needs to be examined and fixed by a qualified riflesmith and as a first port of call have a chat to the guys at the Blaser UK repairs shop. Call Erwin Peumans at Blaser UK on 01978 660 001. Details on service and repairs and general advice can be had on the following webpage:
http://www.blaser-uk.com/15.html
Excessive headspace will cause the case to stretch beyond normal tolerances and can cause a case failure, which in turn can have unwelcome consequences. I've had a couple of case failures in old .303s where the correct headspace had gone and luckily the gases escaped without doing me or the rifle any harm. Armourers can change the head of the bolt of the Enfields to adjust for increased headspace over the life of the rifle. However Blasers are obviously built to far higher tolerances.
Some flattening of primers is normal, but I find that even with my max reloads I get less flattening in my .308 than I do with some of the factory loads. Therefore I wouldn't be worried about your Re15 loads if they are below the max indicated. There may well be a more serious problem with the rifle itself.
Does the rifle have a moderator and if so is it correctly fitted and threaded true to the bore?
What kind of 'scope do you use? Is it reliable and properly mounted?
If you crimp your bullets into the case please don't. I destroyed a BSA CF2 in .243 by doing that wrongly and gave myself the sickening experience of around 2 months of tinnitus. Don't swamp your barrel and action with oil. Rifles need far less oiling than most seem to think. Just a very light film or oil on surfaces and light grease or suitable oil on working parts. I remember when I was younger taking on problem rifles for friends and having to spend hours removing and degreasing the actions, chamber and stock inlets and channel of Vaseline. Someone had told them it was a good way of sealing the rifle against water. More like a great way of clogging it up and attracting dirt. Awful habit that. It used to be everywhere, even tight into corners of the bolt face and chamber.
Without seeing the fired cases and examining the rifle I can't offer anything meaningful, but look at the following steps:
The rifle:
Speak to Blaser UK and perhaps get a 2nd opinion from Steve Bowers or one of the other top UK riflesmiths who may have handled problem Blasers before.
Following on from that, and if necessary, have your rifle inspected for faults.
Your reloads:
110gr V-Max will do well as a plinking / general target practice round and there's no reason why it shouldn't group reasonably well.
Do you get across to the UK much? There are a few places here to locate bullets and powders. If you come across to the gamefairs you can always ask people like RSD (Reloading Solutions Direct, based near Oxford) to take your chosen reloading bits n bobs with them to fairs and you can pick them up there. Or have them send to your local RFD if they will do that.
If you are stuck with factory rounds for a while and find that they're not giving great precision then whip out the bullets and powder with a Kinetic Puller or a Sinclair Bullet Puller and replace the powder with a sensible and measured charge of your own preferred powder. I have done that so many times with poorly grouping factory rounds and had great results.
Your shooting:
Practice, practice, practice
If you have a friend at your local range that is willing to help then get him or her to watch you shoot (assuming that your rifle gets the 'all clear' from Blaser or a riflesmith). Ask if you can try their rifle, them to try yours and compare performance. Do try another rifle and see if it is a general problem with your shooting as opposed to a rifle specific issue.
Get into the right frame of mind for precision shooting. You and your rifle are either on the mark and up to scratch or not at all. Black and white. You need to build confidence in yourself and your rifle to do well. That will only come with practice and a drive to place rounds as near as damn it on top of each other. We all have crap shooting days and sometimes fall into bad habits, but it is up to you to get on top of it. Until you are happy that your rifle is not the problem then you won't be able to build skill and confidence in your shooting.
Summary:
Identify whether the problem is with the rifle or you or both.
Try another rifle and see how you get on.
Speak to someone competent about the possible pressure signs and be sure that the Blaser is safe.
Know that you will become a good rifle shot with practice, but, like all of us here, you have to work at it.
Oh, and in regard to a thick cross hair obscuring the target, rather than trying to place the reticle intersection on the central mark just slip the target square or dot snug against the edge of one of the reticle quadrants. That will give you greater precision for grouping.
If you can take pics of the fired cases then that would help, but do speak to Blaser / Steve Bowers etc.
Tell us how you get on.
Best regards,
Craig