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An online calculator that calculates the recoil energy, impulse, and velocity of a firearm according to the firearm's weight, powder charge, bullet weight, and bullet muzzle velocity.
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You can try out lots of different bullet weights, velocities etc. Note that powder weight is also included.
What’s not included is effect of different powders. Fast powders will build pressure and accelerate the bullet rapidly resulting in a snappy recoil , slower powders give a slow and steady long acceleration down the barrel resulting in a long shove type recoil. All things being equal a high velocity out of a short barrel will be snappier than the same velocity out of a long barrel.
Having dislocated my left wrist (my trigger hand) and have open surgery with lots of internal stitches plus pins to hold it all together, at one stage in my life I thought it would be very difficult to shoot again. However I worked hard on my physio and slowly built up my trigger hand again. It doesn’t like recoil so I do like a long open grip where my trigger hand doesnt take the recoil. I really don’t like the recoil of a thumbhole or M16 style free pistol grip. And I use my forehand to soak up the recoil. With shotguns I have gone back to using side by sides, where all the trigger hand does is lift the butt and slap the trigger.
20 years later my left hand does hurt at times - especially when its wet and damp. I prefer light recoil especially when shooting lots. But will happily shot heavy recoiling guns on game, but its usually only one or two shots at a time and you don’t notice those.
Targets are another matter. Its why the 223 and 22lr was invented.
A good friend lost the use of his left hand when a tool cabinet tipped over crushing his hand. It is now a painful claw. He still hunts. I got him shooting again with a 22 lr using sticks, and if needs be resting the front of the rifle on the back of his left forearm for an offhand type shot. He does use a thumb hole type stock in a Blaser R8. He is happy enough with a 7x64 and a 9.3x62 - but just one or two shots at a time.