Why do women do this?

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Think most of us have to address this issue as we get older in life.
Tell her you have cleaned the house to you standard.
When the wife came out of hospital after covid.
All I got was you could have done this and that.
So good luck
 
bottletopbill said:
Think most of us have to address this issue as we get older in life.
Tell her you have cleaned the house to you standard.
When the wife came out of hospital after covid.
All I got was you could have done this and that.
So good luck
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Yes, women can be strange things at times and all men should know that everything has to be done the way that the woman would do it - However Marlene realizes that I am just a mere man and will not do things right (In her eyes) but she also understands that as a mere man I am doing my best. (I had to call her on the mobile to tell me how to work the washing machine - She patiently explained after laughing and calling me all the silly so and so's under the sun. ;) ) However I did manage to get all of the washing and the ironing done - And it looked pretty good (To me)!
I recall a time when Marlene had her first heart attack - When she got home from the hospital she told me that I had done the hoovering the wrong way! I had to get her to explain how the hoovering should be done but since then I have made sure not to make the same mistake again.
Hell hath no fury like a woman's scorn - And we mere men need to remember that!;)
 
FrenchieBoy said:
Normally I would agree with you! However with the weight that Marlene has lost over the last 17 days if there is anything that I can do to help or please her and cheer her up then I feel that have to do it!
Once she has had the op and is recovering then it might be a different matter and something (Eating more healthily) that we both need to seriously address!
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You have to do what you have to mate, soz didn't mean that in an offensive way and I am the biggest cheese fan too 😒
One day no doubt I'll be told what I heard huge guy getting told.... our bodies are flawed, just as you get the time and money to live it up a bit our bloody bodies go south.
 
Franchi Matt said:
You have to do what you have to mate, soz didn't mean that in an offensive way and I am the biggest cheese fan too 😒
One day no doubt I'll be told what I heard huge guy getting told.... our bodies are flawed, just as you get the time and money to live it up a bit our bloody bodies go south.
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Hey no problem and no offence taken. It's just at the moment if that is what Marlene fancies I would rather do that for her and know that she is eating.
 
Just a quick update. The consultants said yesterday that everything is now in place for Marlene to be transferred to Wythenshaw Hospital to have her triple bi-pass operation which they say will happen (hopefully) either towards the end of this week or the beginning of next week. This at last is a very positive forward (At last)! However Marlene is very worried about the operation as she has it in her head that when they stop her heart to do the op they will not be able to get her heart going again. We have all tried telling/reassuring her that the Heart Surgeons and Medical/Theatre Team really are very skilled at their job and to them it is a run of the mill operation for them to carry out (I have likened it to the skills of a very experienced motor mechanic doing an oil change on a car) but this does not take away the worries/ fears that Marlene has in her head even though she realizes that the op is absolutely necessary. All I can do at the moment is to try my best at reassuring her every time I phone or visit her daily, just as I have been doing for the last month while she has been in Fairfield Hospital!
 
bottletopbill said:
Easy for me to say but she does not need to stress herself .
Tell the Mrs to enjoy her time as when she gets home she as a lot of work to catch up on.
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Thanks but if I tell her that she will think I have been sitting on my fat back side doing nothing while she has been in hospital and she will certainly kill me using the most drawn out and painful method she can think of! ;)
 
Great to see some progress at what must be a very difficult time FB.
I wish you both the best of good fortune.
🦊🦊
 
Foxyboy43 said:
Great to see some progress at what must be a very difficult time FB.
I wish you both the best of good fortune.
🦊🦊
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Thank you my friend. You are right, it is not an easy time for me either. To be totally honest I am feeling very run down right now, so much so that my sister in law had to come down of Sunday night as I was struggling with chest pains due to what I believe was angina. She called an ambulance and they wanted to take me into hospital but I had to sign a disclaimer and refuse to go. I have seen the doctor this afternoon and he has had to make an appointment for me in the Rapid Pain Chest Clinic as my angina attacks are getting far more frequent and much more severe, something that I put down to stress. However I have to struggle on and try to fight it for the sake of Marlene while I do my best to hide it from her every time I go to visit her each day.
 
You need to look after yourself for the wife and for both of you to get better together and relax and enjoy life.
Take care both of you
 
FrenchieBoy said:
Thank you my friend. You are right, it is not an easy time for me either. To be totally honest I am feeling very run down right now, so much so that my sister in law had to come down of Sunday night as I was struggling with chest pains due to what I believe was angina. She called an ambulance and they wanted to take me into hospital but I had to sign a disclaimer and refuse to go. I have seen the doctor this afternoon and he has had to make an appointment for me in the Rapid Pain Chest Clinic as my angina attacks are getting far more frequent and much more severe, something that I put down to stress. However I have to struggle on and try to fight it for the sake of Marlene while I do my best to hide it from her every time I go to visit her each day.
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You silly boy! Your thread has now segued into “why do men do this?”.
You really do need to look to yourself my friend - the boss needs you in full working order and able to look after her - especially post-op! Stress and resulting Angina are well known so get off to the doc, get a coro-nitrate spray and in these very difficult times you really must try to relax.
You have been told - by an expert - I too had to sign a disclaimer - just after my coronary - 30 years ago!
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FrenchieBoy said:
Just a quick update. The consultants said yesterday that everything is now in place for Marlene to be transferred to Wythenshaw Hospital to have her triple bi-pass operation which they say will happen (hopefully) either towards the end of this week or the beginning of next week. This at last is a very positive forward (At last)! However Marlene is very worried about the operation as she has it in her head that when they stop her heart to do the op they will not be able to get her heart going again. We have all tried telling/reassuring her that the Heart Surgeons and Medical/Theatre Team really are very skilled at their job and to them it is a run of the mill operation for them to carry out (I have likened it to the skills of a very experienced motor mechanic doing an oil change on a car) but this does not take away the worries/ fears that Marlene has in her head even though she realizes that the op is absolutely necessary. All I can do at the moment is to try my best at reassuring her every time I phone or visit her daily, just as I have been doing for the last month while she has been in Fairfield Hospital!
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Glad to see she's getting transferred to Wythenshaw as it's the local specialist centre for Cardiology. Only natural that the boss is worrying about the surgery - this is major stuff, not to be laughed about.
I went through open heart surgery three and a half years ago (for valve problems) and it was a relief to actually get the surgery done. However, I did worry about not waking up post surgery and the idea of them stopping the heart then relying on a de-fib to get the damn thing going again did give me some ....err.....slight worries.
All good though and it is a bit weird waking up in ITU and looking at the scar where they'd used the chainsaw and someone had had their hands inside your chest (and head by the size of the scar, but there you go!).
Recovery will take time and she'll get a whole list of do's and don't's for the first few months, so you'll have to be on your best behaviour! Best wishes to the two of you!
 
Foxyboy43 said:
You silly boy! Your thread has now segued into “why do men do this?”.
You really do need to look to yourself my friend - the boss needs you in full working order and able to look after her - especially post-op! Stress and resulting Angina are well known so get off to the doc, get a coro-nitrate spray and in these very difficult times you really must try to relax.
You have been told - by an expert - I too had to sign a disclaimer - just after my coronary - 30 years ago!
🦊🦊
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I have seen the doctor today and got a good ear bending from him. I have also had it from the wife and the sister in law so I consider myself well and truly told.
I use a GTN spray that I have had prescribed to me for the last good few years.
 
Ok, I guess it's time for an update about Marlene, quite likely a final one from me!
I was admitted to hospital last Saturday morning after testing positive for Covid and then suffered yet another angina attack and collapsing at home. I have been discharged this afternoon/evening but it looks like I have inadvertently passed this wretched Covid on to Marlene.
Marlene is now very rapidly going down hill now and is struggling to talk.
I am really starting to worry about the state of her health both physically and mentally as this is now bringing on terrific depression in her and after talking to her on the phone this evening she is sounding like is ready just about ready to give up - Especially as she told me that she does not want me to visit her again.
I'm sorry guys but that is the best that I can say about the situation right now except that I feel that there is nothing left for me to do now but to give up myself.
Thank you all for the friendship, help and support that so many of you have given me throughout the years.
God bless each and every one of you.
 
FrenchieBoy said:
I'm sorry guys but that is the best that I can say about the situation right now except that I feel that there is nothing left for me to do now but to give up myself.
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You and your wife are going through a tough time.

Circadian rhythms (for most folk) mean that we are at our 'lowest' between 0200 and 0300 hours - I note the time of your post.
This is the time when we feel our 'darkest'.

Serious illness can also manifest itself with forms of depression, aggression, denial and irrationality - this is normal.

Hang tough.

Speak about how you are feeling to your family and to your health cafe professional.
If you are using alcohol - do so in moderation (it is a depressant).

If it is night - try and sleep.
If you cannot sleep, sit and watch the sun rise.

If the sun rises, it means it is a new day. Deal with what that day brings (and only that day). Literally, take one day at a time.


What you and your wife are dealing with is horrible, it is hard and it is utterly natural.

Be there for each other for as long as you both can.

Life is precious - live every second of it.
 
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FrenchieBoy Life is worth fighting for for both of you.
Yes you have had a bloody hard time lately but try and think positive thoughts mate my wife was really ill with covid the last time.
OK she as some problems but still alive.

We are all behind you mate keep fighting on please for all
 
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